Other words
for selfishness: narrow-minded, egotistical, greedy, narcissistic,
self-centered, mean
Selfishness defined: lacking consideration for other:
concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure.
What are
some ways we show selfishness in our everyday lives?
1. By having a “me first” attitude:
a. Everyday Example: Our needs and wants come before others. A selfish person would view
others only as a way to get something they want. We would call this sort of
person a user. They have no compassion for others. They will one up someone
with a more serious story, condition, or more dramatic story. They don’t know
how to listen and care for others because their focus is completely on
themselves.
b. Spiritual Life Example: Some people view prayer requests and singing opportunities
as their time to talk about themselves. It’s more common when the person has
missed a few services.
2. They are manipulative:
a. Everyday Example: Selfish people fear the possibility of losing control. They will
manipulate anyone or anything to remain in control.
b. Spiritual Life Example: Some people take on too much because they fear that someone
else will outdo them. For example, a person who has done VBS for 5 consecutive
years might not be willing to let someone else take control. If they do
relinquish control, they give up any involvement whatsoever and have nothing to
do with the activity.
3. They are hoarders of time and things:
a. Everyday Example: Selfish people have a hard time letting go of their time and their
things. Hoarders are an example. We get selfish with our time. We find so many
things that we have to get done and
put our desires before everyone/everything else.
b. Spiritual Life Example: Giving time to the church. Nothing gets accomplished if
people don’t participate. We think our time is precious. Sunday mornings
between 11 and 12 aren’t the only time God moves. There’s Sunday School, Sunday
night, Wednesday night, camp-meetings, revival, visiting, events, and prayer
meetings. It’s sad when we can’t even schedule a revival because people won’t
show up. If they don’t come on regularly scheduled times, how can we expect
them to come a few nights in a row? We are afraid to give up any of our TV
time, our alone time and anything else that will give us satisfaction. We view
church as a social event; not a life changing place to get to know one another,
praise together, pray together, and worship together. We don’t view the events
and extra services as opportunities to fellowship and get/give encouragement or
to spread the gospel. We find them to be inconvenient and as intruders of our
precious time.
4. They are pessimistic:
a. Everyday Example: They put the opinions of others down to make their own more impactful –
especially in a group setting. They can’t handle someone else getting any glory
for anything that they’re involved in.
b. Spiritual Life Example: Many times this shows up in event planning. A group is
assigned to something but one person in the group will not take in any ideas
and they shoot down any that are brought up. They want all the credit for doing
something.
How is selfishness described in the Bible?
1 . Paul writes to Timothy in II Timothy
3:1-5 and gives him signs to watch for. It says: “This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. 2 For
men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud,
blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3 Without natural
affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of
those that are good, 4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more
than lovers of God; 5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power
thereof: from such turn away.” He says that men will be lovers of their own
selves. This is a perfect definition of selfishness. In our time today we see
selfishness taking over. It’s all about greed, pride, and personal gain.
2. In Philippians 2:21 Paul says “For all seek their own, not the things
which are Jesus Christ’s”. Some will not reciprocate loving deeds because
they don’t see it as gaining anything from it. If there’s no recognition for
their actions, they probably won’t act.
3. Philippians 2:4 says: “Look not
every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.”
Galatians 6:2 says “Bear ye one another's
burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.” Paul repeats this several times
in his letters. If it is repeated, he wants it to be understood.
At the end of the lesson we discussed some history for the scripture that we'll cover next week. Our scripture will be in Luke 18:9-14. Here are some things to know before reading the parable:
a. What is a Pharisee? A Pharisee was one of the three religious societies of Judaism during
the time the New Testament was written (Sadducees and Essenes are the other
two). The Pharisees were the most vocal and
influential. They focused highly on tradition and ritual. Their name in Hebrew
form means “the separated ones”. They were also called “chadisim” which meant
“loved by God”. This is ironic because by the time Christ arrived, the
Pharisees were the most bitter, and deadly opponents of Christ and his message.
They were originated with good intentions, but their selfishness got in the way. Christ gives warning to this group many
times in the New Testament. Pharisees you may have heard of: Nicodemus (John
3:1), Gamaliel (Acts 5:34), and Paul (Acts 22:3).
b. What is a Publican? A tax collector. They were contracted out in their areas by Rome. They
could set their own fees and many times overcharged people when they could get
by with it. The publicans were so distrusted that they were prohibited from
testifying in a court of law. Banks declined their business, and even their
charitable gifts generally were refused. It was deemed ethical by the Jews to
resort to any sort of evasion (including outright lying) to avoid paying taxes.
Rabbi’s viewed them on the same level as highwaymen and murderers. They
frequently had contact with Gentiles, hence were considered unclean. Even the
handle of a publican’s staff was deemed to be ceremonially contaminated.
Publicans you may have heard of: Matthew and Zacchaeus.
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